There’s an old saying, the man felt sorrow because he had no arm
until he met a man who had no leg
comparison being an uncomfortable bed mate
all of us could do with sinking to our knees
mindful our own aches in the sum of things
matter and matter less
not dismissing but appreciating
someone out there is worse off
when I feel betrayed I recall
someone else was betrayed twice as bad
when in the eighth month of pregnancy
he said I’m leaving
when I feel lonely I think
of those who lost everyone and never
regained belonging
when I feel sorrow
it is the sorrow of those who survived
concentration camps only to find light
once more
that keeps me endeavouring to do my best
even if I fall
even if I cannot always
by that I do not diminish
anyone’s hurt
but it is worth considering
if others survived
we too
can pick ourselves up
and not give permission
to be destroyed

0 Replies to “Permission to be destroyed”

  1. Oh yes. This was always my thoughts when I would take my littlest for surgeries at Children’s. I would tell myself almost like a mantra, “it could be worse…”

    1. Sometimes it REALLY doesn’t help though … but it’s omnipresent in the back of our minds maybe – like an unseen life-guard or comparison. Maybe we only know things through comparison like love/hate or happiness/sadness

    1. Dearest Victory, thank you for your kind words and reading this. I do agree – very hard to do I often bemoan rather than appreciate, hence the reminder 😉 But it’s a good starting point xo Happy New Year!

    1. Dear Wallace my friend – thank you for reading this and your comment which is always so appreciated. I agree, honoring pain is crucial! I think I write about this a lot and I wanted I suppose to reflect back this idea of also being grateful for surviving. Thank you again my friend

  2. Yes, it could be worse. Maybe not immediately do we think it though it does dawn on us and helps us be grateful for what we have. Having survived ovarian cancer ( 28 years survivor) I am grateful as too many die from it far too early.

    1. Dear Dear Helene lovely lady, thank you for your kindness in reading this, and for your shared story. 28 years survivor, is something to be very glad of, and I wish you many, many more. Most of all I do believe as you say, gratitude for what we have is the grace we learn in this life if we pay attention, not always infallible but I hope, helps in our understanding xo Happy New Year my friend xo

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